A few days ago, a Malayalee nurse was killed by her husband in the United States. Actress Amala Paul shared a note written by a friend on social media about the comments that came under the news related to this. It was a post about marriage and domestic violence.
Following this post, someone came up with a question about Amala Paul’s ex-husband Vijay. ‘ Who destroyed AL Vijay? The question was what to call it. The actress replied, “Call it that, it’s self – esteem and self-esteem.”
Amala’s Instagram Post
A Malayali woman named Merin was murdered by her husband today in US- on the day she was moving out to another state and another life. He stabbed her 17 times and then ran over her with a car. The murder in itself is spine chilling. But what really froze my very soul were the comments under the news articles on Facebook. It resonated so much with yesterday’s discussions and videos. Snehamulla violence. Toxic love.
I will say this again- Whatever it takes you, whatever you do- never return to a place that breaks you, hurts you, or erases you. People will tell you; it’s love, it’s how marriages are, it’s what is expected of you, everyone lives like this, adjust a little, compromise a little, ignore a little. Don’t. They will call you names. They will say you are a whore and insane and arrogant and a sinner. You are not. They will shame you for being strong and feminist and smart and well-read and motivated. Don’t be ashamed one bit.
If anyone says they love you and continue doing things that hurt you; it is for eff-sakes NOT love. Always trust actions over words. Trust the pain you feel over the words you hear. Repeated mistakes are not ‘Patti poya’ accidents. If these accidents do not occur in public, to their friends and bosses- it is no accident. Get out. Get out. Get a lawyer who will not Mollywood Male Dialogue you. Call a friend. Call your family. Don’t teach your child Violence is how love is expressed.