4 Years Relationship-Breakup-Fell in love with her Friend who got engaged-Finally converted it into an arranged marriage
Me and my wife in Manali.

We are happily married since 3 Years and were gifted with a Baby Girl 2 Months ago.

Note- English is going to be Savage, Please ignore.

Let’s call my My Wife K and Ex GF P.

K, P & I are from same school and K & P were classmates. From my early school days i was in love with P.

After school I went to NIT Kurukshetra in 2006 and P and K were still in school & they graduated in 2008. As they graduated, I called P and started talking to her and in 2–3 months, we were in a relationship. After that she went to Kota to take coaching for PMT and I was in Kurukshetra. I used to visit Kota to meet her once in a month. It was an awesome year for both of us, I had never felt that much happiness before.

After taking coaching for a year she couldn’t qualify for any medical exams in 2009 so she decided to pursue graduation from Kurukshetra University in Kurukshetra. There were two reasons for this, 1. KU is better than any other University in Haryana 2. She wanted to stay close to me as much as possible, we stayed in Kurukshetra for a year, used to meet daily and go for outings once in a month. We had spent 2 wonderful years together till then.

After that I went to Gurgaon/Gurugram for my job (I got campus placement) and I rented a small 1 BHK by saying that I was married and my wife worked in Noida, so the landlord agreed to let her stay there for as much as she wanted. She used to visit me once in a month and stayed with me for a minimum duration of 10 days, all thanks to the attendance rules at KU. In this way we completed 2 more years of togetherness. As K was P’s close friend we used to talk once in a while.

Till then we had spent 4 years together with complete love and passion for each other from 2008 to 2012.

But from march 2012 there grew some problem between us related to our relationship and we broke up on 28th May 2012.

This was a really tough phase for me. Because I wanted to marry her since 2002. I was 14 years old at that time and didn’t know the meaning of marriage. As I couldn’t think of my life without her, I was dying bit by bit with each passing day. It was very difficult for me to spend even a single day. I started consuming liquor and other kind of stuffs . It went on for some 4–5 months and once while I was drunk, I jumped from a 2 storey building. Luckily, I was not much hurt. After this incident, a friend of mine suggested me to visit a Psychiatrist and I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder (A type of depression). After struggling for some 4–5 months, I started recovering and my life started going back to normal.

When I was struggling to come to normal life, I talked to K once and found her nature caring and understanding. So, I started to talk to her more frequently, I loved to talk to her. It helped me a lot to recover from depression. Then we started meeting and in a span of 6-7 months, we started liking each other. I proposed K and she said ‘YES’.

We were very happy with each other and liked each other’s company.

After dating K for approx 1 Years, she asked me “What do you think about the future of our relationship?” I was blank because I had no idea about it & I replied, “ I am not ready for any kind of commitment at this point of time”. She was very understanding and she didn’t force me for anything and said “OK, Fine”,

Within a span of 4 Months she got engaged to someone else. She then called me and picked my phone less often due to obvious reasons. I was in a huge dilemma. After seeing all this for 4–5 days, I thought I was about to commit another mistake by letting her go so I got drunk that night and called her. Luckily, she received my call and I told her what I felt for her and asked her to not leave me.

Next day, I got a call from K asking what I was saying last night when I was drunk and I said exactly the same thing what I had said. She said “OK, But are you sure now?” I said “Absolutely, I am very much sure”.

I discussed with my family regarding her. Initially they were reluctant about it, but I somehow managed to convince them.

Then we planned to talk to her then fiance about breaking their engagement and she called him and said “ I don’t want to marry you. If it is possible, can you please ask your parents to call off this engagement?”. The guy went berserk, He denied to call off the engagement and said,“You want to call it off, I don’t, You do whatever you want to but I wont do anything”. After that she told her father that she didn’t want to marry her then fiance and after a torturous week, her father called off her engagement with the guy. It’s really tough for a middle class family and specially in a state like Haryana where honor killing is not new.

Now it was very difficult for her to introduce me to her father because of all this but still she gathered the courage and asked her father to meet me once.

Her father met me and found me to be a good guy, but he had a problem with my financial status as they were richer than us. But K took her stand and said to her father,“ I will manage everything and I want to live with this guy and if you find him decent, nothing else matters to me.”

Again, torturous days started for her, after fighting for 2 weeks her parents agreed.

After this, there was no looking back. We got engaged on 12 Dec-14 and married on 28 March-15.

It has been approx 3 years of journey with her and we are really very happy with each other, I ask her occasionally if she was happy with the decision she took about me? She always smiles and says “NOOO” & hugs me every time I ask. I use it as a cheat code for getting hug nowadays.

Recently on 15 Nov 2017, We were gifted with a Baby Girl and she is very beautiful like her mother. I hope she will become exactly like her mother when she grows up.

I am attaching picture of 2 most beautiful females on the earth.

P.S.- We were not immature when this all happened, I was 26 year-old with a B.Tech degree from NIT Kurukshetra & 5 Years of experience in Engineering industries and she was 25 Years old with M.Sc. and B.Ed Degrees with 2 years of teaching experience.

This was my story.

Thanks.

Edit- People are asking what happened to P,

I will only write facts not opinions, I leave conclusions on Wisdom of readers.

As i mentioned in one of my answer to a comment that My family didn’t want me to get married to P and doing some melodrama, My mother was threatening me by saying she will kill herself if i marry P, so i took some time for myself and took leave of 1 month from my office, disconnected myself from everything, I called P and said “we have no future, Please leave me alone”, and called my family that i an going out of haryana for sometime and will be really busy so dont call me, i will call you whenever i get time, After that i switched my phone off & rented a 1BHK in gurgaon to think about what to do now, so in first 20–25 days i realized that I cant live without P, i want to be with her at any cost and analysed if i leave my family and marry P, some day or other my family will accept us, it may take time but at the end this is going to be happened for sure and If i leave P, she will never come to my life, then i started my Phone after 20–25 days and Called P but my call was in waiting, after trying some 2 hours she picked my call and i said “this was my mistake that i said we have no future, in these 25 days i have realized that i cant live without you, Please forgive me and let’s give our relationship a new start”, But she denied, I thought her reaction was natural, she was just trying to show me my mistake and pretending to be moved on.

Then i started calling her every day and most of the time my call was in waiting, She talked about a guy while we were in a relationship, lets Call him-M, she described that M is her relative, 3 years younger to her, He was her distant nephew and was a good guy, I was totally fine with it because i trusted P.

So For next 15–20 days the situation was same , She keeps denying to come back to me and My call used to be in waiting most of time even at late night, I thought she was just trying to pretend that she found someone else to make me feel jealous, so i took another leave of A Month went kurukshetra, I tried to call her but she started ignoring my calls, after trying a lot i convinced her to meet me, She came to meet me, and i realized during that meeting that she was a completely changed person. She didn’t want me back to her life, I tried to sort everything out but all in vain, so i told her that if she really don’t want me back to her life i will go back to gurgaon today itself, she said “Ok, You came by your own wish, You may go when you feel like”.

In evening, I pretended that i have left for gurgaon, but i was in kurukshetra itself, to check what was happening with her in real, Next day was her exam, so i went to her exam hall and waiting outside, I was spying on her, After her exam over she started moving toward a market in university itself, i followed her and saw that M (They guy she used to describe as her nephew) came to meet her and they were hugging each other and started moving with hand in hand , i was literally shocked to see that, How it can be possible, still i was thinking may be i am wrong so i kept following them, then they went to a place where nobody was there in KU and started kissing each other, i was totally broken down at that point and asking myself “How this can happen, How she can find someone else in just 25 days and came too close, How she can get into a relationship with her distant nephew, How a girl who was saying me that if i’ll leave her, she will die with a letter and get me behind bars”. I started crying like hell at that place itself, People were passing and were smiling at me but i was totally lost at that time.

M’s father & Mother were Teachers in a school and i knew details about that so just to verify whether the nephew thing is real of fake, i got the schools number through internet, then called that school and get M’s Father’s mobile number, Then i called M’s father and said “we have found a mobile in KU campus and your number was in dialed list and found some documents too in this phone, in one document its written that P is daughter of V, do you know who P and V might be?”, M’s father told me that he knows P and her Father V and are distant relatives, After that i was sure that M is P’s nephew and they are together. after that i left Kurukshetra and came to Gurgaon, i again tried to contact P in hopes that she will come back to me but i failed, I was totally lost and stopped going to office so I was kicked out of my job.

I was very helpless at that time, A bachelor guy who is going through a breakup and lost his job too, I was blank that time, i lost all hopes and Then the Tough phase started which included Drink and all,

After that P blocked me from social media and one day K got a Call from P in 2014 (After 2 Years) after seeing K’s whatsapp DP of me and K together, P asked many question about me, The conversation was like this-

P-Are you guys dating each Other?

K- Yes, are you offended by this?

P- Obliviously not, he is your kind of guy, What he is doing now?

K- He is Senior Executive in an AC Manufacturing Company.

P-How much he is earning now?

K- His package is 6 Lacks per Year.

P- Oh nice, he is earning quite well now, great, what he gifted you on this valentine day?

K- He gifted me a necklace

P- How much does that necklace costs?

K-The amount mentioned on bill is some 15k,

P- Ohhh, He never gifted me anything, your are very lucky.

K- That time in he was earning only 2.5 Lacks per annum and staying in gurgaon and now he is staying at his home and earning 6 LPA, that might be a reason.

P- Great gal, you came to his life when he is earning decent and gifting you decent stuff, I am happy for you, He might have told you his version of story about me and what i told you may be different, Now its your call on whose story you trust.

K- He never told me anything about you, He just said that no one was at fault that time, It’s circumstances which led us to beakup.

P- Ohh, Really, I never expected that much maturity from him.

K- hahah, Change is inevitable part of life baby, OK i gotta go, talk to you later.

After that there was no communication between them, When our marriage was fixed, K called P to invite her, P agreed and pretended like she is happy for K, but P did not visit our wedding.

K again called P after some days of our marriage and after some random conversation K casually asked P “its time for you too to get married, What are your plans?”, P replied “My father is looking for option but i dont find any proposal attaractive enough, If you have someone in your contact, Please suggest someone to me”, K again asked “What Kind of guy do you want?” on this P replied in different tone (She was trying to pretend funny) “Nothing much he just have to be be RICH & GOOD LOOKING”

K was connected to P on Social network, but after 6–7 month of our marriage, P unfriended K and blocked her and I was already blocked by her, so we had no contact, after few days P sent a Friend request to K to which K denied, She was hurt by P’s activity of blocking K.

after some time i was surfing FB and found P in suggestion, means she has unblocked me.

Today i again checked P’s profile because i have write about P today and her cover pic is-

P.S.- We were not immature when this all happened, I was 26 year-old with a B.Tech degree from NIT Kurukshetra & 5 Years of experience in Engineering industries and she was 25 Years old with M.Sc. and B.Ed Degrees with 2 years of teaching experience.

This was my story.

Thanks.

Edit- People are asking what happened to P,

I will only write facts not opinions, I leave conclusions on Wisdom of readers.

As i mentioned in one of my answer to a comment that My family didn’t want me to get married to P and doing some melodrama, My mother was threatening me by saying she will kill herself if i marry P, so i took some time for myself and took leave of 1 month from my office, disconnected myself from everything, I called P and said “we have no future, Please leave me alone”, and called my family that i an going out of haryana for sometime and will be really busy so dont call me, i will call you whenever i get time, After that i switched my phone off & rented a 1BHK in gurgaon to think about what to do now, so in first 20–25 days i realized that I cant live without P, i want to be with her at any cost and analysed if i leave my family and marry P, some day or other my family will accept us, it may take time but at the end this is going to be happened for sure and If i leave P, she will never come to my life, then i started my Phone after 20–25 days and Called P but my call was in waiting, after trying some 2 hours she picked my call and i said “this was my mistake that i said we have no future, in these 25 days i have realized that i cant live without you, Please forgive me and let’s give our relationship a new start”, But she denied, I thought her reaction was natural, she was just trying to show me my mistake and pretending to be moved on.

Then i started calling her every day and most of the time my call was in waiting, She talked about a guy while we were in a relationship, lets Call him-M, she described that M is her relative, 3 years younger to her, He was her distant nephew and was a good guy, I was totally fine with it because i trusted P.

So For next 15–20 days the situation was same , She keeps denying to come back to me and My call used to be in waiting most of time even at late night, I thought she was just trying to pretend that she found someone else to make me feel jealous, so i took another leave of A Month went kurukshetra, I tried to call her but she started ignoring my calls, after trying a lot i convinced her to meet me, She came to meet me, and i realized during that meeting that she was a completely changed person. She didn’t want me back to her life, I tried to sort everything out but all in vain, so i told her that if she really don’t want me back to her life i will go back to gurgaon today itself, she said “Ok, You came by your own wish, You may go when you feel like”.

In evening, I pretended that i have left for gurgaon, but i was in kurukshetra itself, to check what was happening with her in real, Next day was her exam, so i went to her exam hall and waiting outside, I was spying on her, After her exam over she started moving toward a market in university itself, i followed her and saw that M (They guy she used to describe as her nephew) came to meet her and they were hugging each other and started moving with hand in hand , i was literally shocked to see that, How it can be possible, still i was thinking may be i am wrong so i kept following them, then they went to a place where nobody was there in KU and started kissing each other, i was totally broken down at that point and asking myself “How this can happen, How she can find someone else in just 25 days and came too close, How she can get into a relationship with her distant nephew, How a girl who was saying me that if i’ll leave her, she will die with a letter and get me behind bars”. I started crying like hell at that place itself, People were passing and were smiling at me but i was totally lost at that time.

M’s father & Mother were Teachers in a school and i knew details about that so just to verify whether the nephew thing is real of fake, i got the schools number through internet, then called that school and get M’s Father’s mobile number, Then i called M’s father and said “we have found a mobile in KU campus and your number was in dialed list and found some documents too in this phone, in one document its written that P is daughter of V, do you know who P and V might be?”, M’s father told me that he knows P and her Father V and are distant relatives, After that i was sure that M is P’s nephew and they are together. after that i left Kurukshetra and came to Gurgaon, i again tried to contact P in hopes that she will come back to me but i failed, I was totally lost and stopped going to office so I was kicked out of my job.

I was very helpless at that time, A bachelor guy who is going through a breakup and lost his job too, I was blank that time, i lost all hopes and Then the Tough phase started which included Drink and all,

After that P blocked me from social media and one day K got a Call from P in 2014 (After 2 Years) after seeing K’s whatsapp DP of me and K together, P asked many question about me, The conversation was like this-

P-Are you guys dating each Other?

K- Yes, are you offended by this?

P- Obliviously not, he is your kind of guy, What he is doing now?

K- He is Senior Executive in an AC Manufacturing Company.

P-How much he is earning now?

K- His package is 6 Lacks per Year.

P- Oh nice, he is earning quite well now, great, what he gifted you on this valentine day?

K- He gifted me a necklace

P- How much does that necklace costs?

K-The amount mentioned on bill is some 15k,

P- Ohhh, He never gifted me anything, your are very lucky.

K- That time in he was earning only 2.5 Lacks per annum and staying in gurgaon and now he is staying at his home and earning 6 LPA, that might be a reason.

P- Great gal, you came to his life when he is earning decent and gifting you decent stuff, I am happy for you, He might have told you his version of story about me and what i told you may be different, Now its your call on whose story you trust.

K- He never told me anything about you, He just said that no one was at fault that time, It’s circumstances which led us to beakup.

P- Ohh, Really, I never expected that much maturity from him.

K- hahah, Change is inevitable part of life baby, OK i gotta go, talk to you later.

After that there was no communication between them, When our marriage was fixed, K called P to invite her, P agreed and pretended like she is happy for K, but P did not visit our wedding.

K again called P after some days of our marriage and after some random conversation K casually asked P “its time for you too to get married, What are your plans?”, P replied “My father is looking for option but i dont find any proposal attaractive enough, If you have someone in your contact, Please suggest someone to me”, K again asked “What Kind of guy do you want?” on this P replied in different tone (She was trying to pretend funny) “Nothing much he just have to be be RICH & GOOD LOOKING”

K was connected to P on Social network, but after 6–7 month of our marriage, P unfriended K and blocked her and I was already blocked by her, so we had no contact, after few days P sent a Friend request to K to which K denied, She was hurt by P’s activity of blocking K.

after some time i was surfing FB and found P in suggestion, means she has unblocked me.

Today i again checked P’s profile because i have write about P today and her cover pic is-

Which says she is engaged but wedding day is not fixed (She replied this on someone’s comment on her post)

I hope she found her soulmate and will be happy forever.

That’s all about P.

Actually i was very hurt when we broke up but now when i introspect i realize that it was required at that time when i used to be careless for everything and had no goal in life, Was living in fancy world, not taking life seriously, In short i was a 22 Years old KID at that time, Now ithink i am a better person and more over that this breakup let me find K as my partner, I have no complaints to P after this.

To close this answer on a happy note, Few of our pics (Me and K).

This is K’s Favorite pic and she insisted to post it on the answer, because she is a big fan of this character of a TV serial and she met him in person on set (The guy in Black outfits,Though I hate to watch TV but if she will be happy with this, I will be happier)

Our Angel daughter.

As i mentioned my English is poor, Requesting people to advice edits on my mistakes.

Thank you so much, I am much obliged to see such response from you people.

Thanks again.

Source : Quora