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He Tended to His Bedridden Girlfriend for 4 Years Till Her Death Changed Him.

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On September 21, 2006, Sunny Pawar’s life came crashing down. He still remembers it like it was yesterday. At 10 am, his girlfriend of almost 15 months, Aarti Makwana, called him. She had two proxy lectures in college, and her friends were forcing her to tag along on a drive to Gorai Beach.

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“I don’t really want to, Sunny, but I don’t want to upset them,” Aarti had said apprehensively. But she did go on that drive, on Sunny’s insistence, both of them unsuspecting of the tragedy that would befall her.

For reasons unknown to them till date, the car Aarti and her friends were driving collided with force and turned turtle. While the others got away with minor injuries, Aarti was the worst hit. She had suffered a brain hemorrhage. The delay in rushing her to the hospital caused her to slip into a coma.’

One of the good samaritans found her college ID and called her landline. Her younger sister went into a state of panic, their mum, a single mother, was working as usual at the bank. It was she who informed Sunny, who rushed to the hospital.

“Looking at her state, the doctors had given up hope even before trying at Bhayander. They wasted no time in shifting her to Jaslok that same night.”

No one apart from their mutual friends, Aarti’s sister and Sunny’s elder sister knew about their relationship. And while her mother was shocked at why Sunny was adamant to be around, her most important concern was her daughter who was battling for her life.

The next 100 days were perhaps the worst for Sunny, who despite the pressure from his parents to return home, wouldn’t listen to them. How could he? When the only person he had truly loved was on a death countdown?

  • “Her head was shaved, and vents were plugged into it. Subdural hematoma (SDH) required surgical drainage, the doctors at Jaslok said. It was the first day of the next four months that Aarti’s mother and I would spend at the hospital. She was completely on life support. The loud banging on the door of the ward where the patient’s families were put up, always caused panic. 90 per cent of the times it meant someone was dead or was on the verge of dying. It was unnerving, knowing she could have died,” recalls Sunny, in an interview with The Better India.

Four months at the hospital meant mounting bills, way beyond the Rs 15,000-20,000 Aarti’s single mother would earn monthly. Sometimes, this amount would be spent on medicines and ICU charges on a single day.

Sunny was still a student. But his grief did not deter him from leaving any stone unturned to arrange funds for Aarti’s treatment.

From his close friends to relatives, they had gone to everyone for the first three months, exhausting all their resources. Until one day, when he was outside Aarti’s ward, he came across a newspaper article. A girl who was attacked in broad daylight had suffered a similar injury like Aarti. Fortunately for her, readers extended a helping hand, and actor Fardeen Khan went on to fund her entire treatment.

Sunny knew it was the only option he had. While he would take care of Aarti during the better part of the day, most evenings were spent visiting newspaper offices, all of whom turned him away not understanding the sensitivity behind it or demanding money to publish the story as an advertisement or give a simple appeal without actually covering it. The only ray of hope was journalist Anand Holla from Midday who chose sensitization over sensationalism.

Soon, Sunny and Aarti’s story had created a stir in the media.

“The young boy who stayed by his girlfriend’s bedside for over 100 days”, the headline said.

Overnight they were deemed as the symbols of love in a cynical city which had no time for love.

Every few months, Anand would run a follow-up story, thanking good samaritans and requesting funds for Aarti’s treatment.

People from all walks of life helped them. While someone contributed their first salary, veteran actor Waheeda Rehman and a few NGOs came forward to help fund Aarti’s treatment.

All the naysayers who felt Aarti wouldn’t make it were proven wrong. Sunny never gave up.

She was shifted to the general ward. For the first time in three months, Sunny had slept on his bed.

She had finally started breathing on her own. The doctor sanctioned removing her food pipe allowing Sunny and her mum to feed her liquids and semi-solid foods. The bills continued to mount, but that was the maximum doctors could do. Sunny was told Aarti was good to go home but would require full-time care.

In December 2007, Aarti was discharged. Her room at home was converted into a hospital room. The right side of her body was completely paralyzed. So from feeding, to bathing and changing her clothes, Sunny did everything.

  • “I was completely involved in her care. When I had to take a breather, I would call people for funds. She was bedridden, couldn’t sit, talk or walk. And she just vaguely acknowledged that her mother and I were her caregivers. When her mother would say, she thought Aarti recognised us; I would bluntly shut her down saying she didn’t. Because I was scared if she did remember us on one day and forgot us on the next, I would lose my sanity,” says an emotional Sunny.

From the first time they had met in the hospital ward as complete strangers, watching the person they both dearly loved almost die, Aarti’s mom and Sunny became each other’s support system through her recovery.

And while Sunny and Aarti’s love story is perhaps one of the most beautiful stories this generation was fortunate to witness, it didn’t get its happy ending. On 14th June 2010, Aarti was down with a very high fever. Because it was raining heavily, Sunny and her mother couldn’t take her to the doctor immediately. When she was rushed to the clinic a day later, the doctor sensed something wrong. She was rushed to the hospital and had contracted pneumonia.

  • She had turned pale. She looked afraid and exhausted like a delicate child. None of us could have foreseen it. But at 8:30 that evening, my Aarti breathed her last. Aarti had regressed to being a child back again in these four years. She was never the same. She had turned into a newborn child. And her mother and I had lost our four-year-old child.

“I stood shocked. The only thoughts in my head were, how do I bring her back? My body was on autopilot. We got her body from the morgue, home, finished the final rites the following morning,” says Sunny.

Sunny was on the verge of depression. He continued to face eating and sleeping disorders. He would get up in the middle of the night, feeling overwhelmed, suffocated and drained. But he knew he had to push himself through this for Aarti.

“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. And so I told myself – resilience is better than resistance. That is how the abrupt end of our story turned into a new beginning for me,” shares Sunny.

When he had become a full-time caregiver for Aarti, Sunny had quit his CFA course. But he decided to let go of a career in finance after her demise and study social work.

“In the 15 months I spent in the hospital, I had seen people lose their loved ones, struggling to save them despite lack of money. So I decided to make it my sole purpose to help people in need connect with donors and work in the development sector.”

Sunny completed his masters in Social Work from the city-based Nirmala Niketan College of Social Work and started working with the Minim Charitable Foundation to motivate youth struggling with depression and lack of motivation due to academic pressures. For those finding it difficult to study in mainstream education, Sunny helps them channelize their energies through counseling, get them enrolled in vocational training by referring them to vocational training centers.

For those struggling with finances for basic education, he helps arrange funds. From a Class 9 dropout domestic help who moved on to work as a customer executive at Faasos to underprivileged students, Sunny has reached out to over 500 people till date.

  • “Aarti and I were two sides of the same coin. She was childlike, yet had a nurturing aura around her. Cheerful, bubbly, full of life, hopeful, passionate, and compassionate, she saw opportunities in challenges, but I saw challenges in opportunities. She typically had a new ambition every day. Sometimes she wanted to be an interior designer, but one dream she nurtured was to become a social worker. Ever since her death, I am evolving. Keeping our shared dream alive to reach out to people and help them,” says Sunny.

When I tell Sunny, he was indeed a miracle for Aarti, he is quick to say, “I hope wherever she is, she will be proud to see her laidback Sunny turn into a trailblazer. It wasn’t I who rescued her. In the true sense, it was Aarti who rescued me.”

 

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These items are very important for your Honeymoon trip!

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There is a minute in the middle of special first-night snapshots of the wedding trip when the spouse intends to accomplish something sentimental for his better half. Or on the other hand, simply state that the main day of the wedding trip of the vast majority begins with a sentimental supper date. In such a circumstance, to make this event progressively exceptional, you should keep your preferred best dress from the closet, which when you come before your significant other by wearing it, at that point he will simply twist at all your endeavors.

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Honeymoon Place

Honeymoon Place

Choosing a honeymoon destination is also not a difficult task in today’s time. But at the same time, if you are going to a middle place for a honeymoon, then, first of all, do not forget to make a beautiful bikini space in your luggage box, because a bikini is most important for newly married women. In the depths of the ocean, when you are with your partner, the bikini will act as a spice in your romance.

Honeymoon Stills

Honeymoon Stills

During the special first night, there are numerous such minutes among a couple when they two leave the universe of satisfaction and are edgy to lose in adoration with one another. In such a circumstance, ladies frequently wear extravagant loungers to charm their spouses. In the event that you additionally need that your better half’s eyes on the wedding trip are only for you, at that point for this, keep a wonderful lounger in your sack in advance. Yet, remember that this lounger ought to be as per your decision and solace. Simultaneously it is on the whole correct to purchase the lounger ahead of time as it very well may be somewhat substantial in your pocket during the special first night.

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India’s First 8D Audio HORROR DOCUMENTARY IS FREE..

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Anna Elisabeth “Anneliese” Michel (21 September 1952 – 1 July 1976) was a German woman who underwent Catholic exorcism rites during the year before her death. She was diagnosed with epileptic psychosis (temporal lobe epilepsy) and had a history of psychiatric treatment, which was overall not effective.

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When Michel was sixteen, she experienced a seizure and was diagnosed with psychosis caused by temporal lobe epilepsy. Shortly thereafter, she was diagnosed with depression and was treated by a psychiatric hospital. By the time she was twenty, she had become intolerant of various religious objects and began to hear voices. Her condition worsened despite medication, and she became suicidal, also displaying other symptoms, for which she took medication as well. After taking psychiatric medications for five years failed to improve her symptoms, Michel and her family became convinced she was possessed by a demon. As a result, her family appealed to the Catholic Church for an exorcism. While rejected at first, after much hesitation, two priests got permission from the local bishop in 1975. Anneliese Michel stopped eating food and died due to malnourishment and dehydration. Michel’s parents and the two Roman Catholic priests were found guilty of negligent homicide and were sentenced to six months in jail (reduced to three years of probation), as well as a fine.

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If you want a happy married life, then do these 4 medical tests before marriage

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If you want a happy married life, then do these 4 medical tests before marriage

If your relationship is fixed and you are going to get married in the same wedding season, then you must have done planetary constellation, horoscope matching and compatibility test to have a happy married life. But one more thing which is very important before marriage is medical test.

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Hindu Wedding

Hindu Wedding

It is very important that before spending their entire life with someone, both partners are fully aware of each other’s medical history and medical status so that they do not face any problem or problem later. We are telling you about those 4 medical tests which must be done before marriage.

Infertility

Infertility

What is the condition of sperm in men, how much is the sperm count, and it is necessary to have an infertility test to know about the things related to women’s ovary health. Since there are no specific symptoms related to infertility in the body, it is necessary to get a test done so that there will be no problem in future family planning and pregnancy. If you come to know about it already, then you will be able to get the right treatment.

Blood Test

Blood Test

If the blood group of both spouses is not compatible or compatible with each other, then problems can occur during pregnancy. So it is very important for both partners to have Rh factor beans. In such a situation, get the blood group compatibility test done before marriage.

genetic diseases

genetic diseases

Genetic diseases very easily pass from one generation to another. Therefore, it is very important to get tests and treatment of these diseases in time. The list of such diseases includes breast cancer, colon cancer, kidney diseases and diabetes.

Pre-marital sex has become common these days. In such a situation, it will be good for both of them if they get sexually transmitted disease tested before marriage. HIV, AIDS, gonorrhea, herpes, hepatitis C – These are some of the diseases that spread due to unprotected sex. Most of these diseases can prove to be fatal. So before the wedding STD and STI test must be done.

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